What is consent?

The Sexualized Violence Prevention and Response Policy defines consent as “the voluntary agreement to engage in physical contact or sexual activity and to continue to engage in the contact or activity. Consent means that all persons involved demonstrate, through words or actions that they freely and mutually agree to participate in a contact or activity.”

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What to remember when it comes to consent

While consent may be a term that many people are familiar with, it’s still something that people grapple with. The primary thing to remember is that consent begins with RESPECT.

R — Respect

is the first step to gaining meaningful consent. When we don’t respect that the person we are interacting with is a person – with thoughts, feelings, emotions, and histories – we often can’t appreciate how our words and actions might impact them.

E — Establish

consent at the outset and at each step along the way. This involves clear communication and the ability to understand our own, and each other's, emotional and physical boundaries. Keep in mind that consent is not an obstacle to over, but an evolving conversation.

S — Silence

or the absence of ‘no’ does not equal consent. Never assume you have consent.

P — Prepare

to hear no (and stop), because consent can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason.

E — Early on

consider whether you or the other person is incapacitated. Incapacitated people cannot give consent.

C — Consider power

There is no consent where there is an abuse of power. This includes coercion, force, threats, or intimidation towards any person or where there is fraud or withholding of critical information that could affect a person’s decision to consent.

T — Take responsibility

Asking for consent is the responsibility of the initiator. For example, if you want to have physical and/or sexual contact with another person, it is your responsibility to ask first. This includes sending sexually explicit photos of yourself.

Consent as an everyday practice

To make it easier to gain consent in our intimate and sexual interactions, it’s important to establish and practice consent in all our everyday interpersonal interactions. For example, not everyone experiences a hug as a friendly welcome or goodbye. In order to build a culture of consent, it’s important to ask whether we can touch one another first. If you want to touch someone, just ask! “Hey, can I give you a hug?”

Keep in mind that there are power dynamics in our relationships with others that can make it hard for some people to freely consent and clearly say “yes” or “no.” We must be sensitive to non-verbal body language (e.g., moving away from a touch or embrace) or indirect communication (e.g., changing the subject so they don’t have to respond). Being aware of all the ways people communicate their boundaries is the responsibility of the person wanting the physical and/or more intimate interaction. 

Consent training

UVic has several different workshops that offer training on consent. For example, the Sexualized Violence Prevention and Response Training offered through Equity and Human Rights includes a section on respect and consent. The Anti-Violence Project has an entire workshop devoted to Understanding Consent Culture. And the Bringing in the Bystander workshop offered through the Office of Student Life also provides information on consent. Finally, the University of Victoria Student Society partners with the groups and offices mentioned above in their Let’s Get Consensual campaign.
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